Tuesday, July 18, 2006
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Guess wat,am nw in my sch pc lab.So damn hot here,unlike d lab in block A, new pc, new aircond but tooo bad there got class nw so terpaksa la!So sleepy jst nw inside d class,nearly slept.At 1st i planned to go sg.wang to shop 1 but class extended.Gees!wat shud i do nw,to skip class or nt to skip class???????!!!Well,anyway d lecturer gonna give lesson which is all in d notes so its ok if din attend d class for only 1 day.Asthena aso coming wif me,she's my coursemate.So i've decide to choose shopping...wahahahahaha....
Saturday, July 01, 2006
The Women Phrase Dictionary
I wonder did anybody read tis book i'm reading nw anot,its called 'men r from mars,women r from venus'.I found it vry helpful for better understanding.So tis is some part tat i wana share wif everyone.
Quote:U see,when a women is upset she not only uses generalities,n so forth,but aso is asking for tat support becos every women knew tat dramatic language implied a particular request.In each of those translations tis hidden request for support is revealed.If a man listening to a woman can recognize the implied request n respond accordingly,she will feel truly heard n loved.
When women say things like tis;
"we nvr go out" -a man my hear "u'r not doin ur job.Wat a disappointment u haf turned out to be.We nvr do anything together anymore becos u'r lazy,unromantic n jst boring."But it actually mean "i feel like goin out n doin something together.We always haf such a fun time,n i love being wif u.Wat do u think?Wud u take me out to dinner?It has been a few day since we went out"
"evryone ignores me"-a man may hear "i am so unhappy.I jst cant get d attention i nit.Evrything is completely hopeless.Even u dun notice me,n u r d person who is supposed to love me.U shud be ashamed.U r so unloving.I wud nvr ignore u tis way."It actually mean "2day,i'm feeling ignored n unacknowledged.I feel as tho nobody sees me.Of cos i'm sure some ppl c me,but they dun seem to care abt me.I suppose i'm aso disappointed tat u haf been so busy lately.I really do appreciate how hard u'r working n sometimes i start to feel like I'm not important to u.I'm afraid ur work is more important than me.Wud u give me a hug n tell me how special I am to u?"
"i wan to forget everything"-a man may hear "I haf to do so much tat i dun wan to do.I am so unhappy wif u n our relationship.I wan a better partner who can make my life more fulfilling.U'r doin a terrible job."It actually mean "I wan u to knw i love my life but today i'm so overwhelmed.I wud love to do someting nurturing for myself b4 i haf to be responsible again.Wud u ask me 'wats da matter?' n den listen wif empathy without offering any solutions?I jst wana feel u understanding d pressures i feel.It wud make me feel so much better.It helps me to relax.Tomolo i'll get bak to normal."
"no one listens to me anymore"-a man may hear "I give u my attention but u dun listen to me.U used to.U become a vry boring person to be wif.I wan someone exciting n interesting n u'r definitely not tat person.U haf disappointed me.U r selfish,uncaring n bad."It actually means "I am afraid i am boring to u.I am afraid u r no longer interested in me.I seem to be vry sensitive today.Wud u gif me some special attention?I wud love it.I've had a hard day n feel as tho no one wants to hear wat i haf to say.Wud u listen to me n continue askin supportive questions such as:'wat happened today?wat else happened?how did u feel?wat did u wan?how else do u feel?' Aso support me by saying caring,acknowledging n reassuring statements such as:'Tell me more' or 'Tats right' or 'i knw wat u mean' or 'i understand'.Or jst listen."
"i wan more romance"-a man may hear "U dun satisfy me anymore.I am nt turned on u.Ur romantic skills r definitely sucks.U haf nvr fulfilled me.I wish u were more like other me i haf been wif."Instead it means "Sweetheart,u've been working so hard lately.Lets take some time out for ourself.I love it when we can relax n be alone wif no pressures.U r so romantic.Wud u suprise me wif flowers sometime soon n take me out on a date?I love being romanced."
Men always misunderstood wat women meant tats y there's arguements becos men n women think n process information vry differently.
Quote:women often discovers wat she wants to say throught d process of jst talking.Tis process of letting tots flow freely n expressing them out loud helps her to tap into her intuition.Tis process is perfectly normal n especially neccessary sometimes.
So its ok tat sometimes we raise our voices.SO guys,when ur gf argue wif u next time n tell u somthing like tis abt wat i quoted jst nw,think again.We r not being 'ridiculous' n unreasonable but is u who misunderstood :).From my point of view,when we say something like 'u dun love me anymore',we actually feeling insecure inside of us,we wan to hear tat u say tat 3 'magic' words sincerely n not accusing u of something.
Quote:U see,when a women is upset she not only uses generalities,n so forth,but aso is asking for tat support becos every women knew tat dramatic language implied a particular request.In each of those translations tis hidden request for support is revealed.If a man listening to a woman can recognize the implied request n respond accordingly,she will feel truly heard n loved.
When women say things like tis;
"we nvr go out" -a man my hear "u'r not doin ur job.Wat a disappointment u haf turned out to be.We nvr do anything together anymore becos u'r lazy,unromantic n jst boring."But it actually mean "i feel like goin out n doin something together.We always haf such a fun time,n i love being wif u.Wat do u think?Wud u take me out to dinner?It has been a few day since we went out"
"evryone ignores me"-a man may hear "i am so unhappy.I jst cant get d attention i nit.Evrything is completely hopeless.Even u dun notice me,n u r d person who is supposed to love me.U shud be ashamed.U r so unloving.I wud nvr ignore u tis way."It actually mean "2day,i'm feeling ignored n unacknowledged.I feel as tho nobody sees me.Of cos i'm sure some ppl c me,but they dun seem to care abt me.I suppose i'm aso disappointed tat u haf been so busy lately.I really do appreciate how hard u'r working n sometimes i start to feel like I'm not important to u.I'm afraid ur work is more important than me.Wud u give me a hug n tell me how special I am to u?"
"i wan to forget everything"-a man may hear "I haf to do so much tat i dun wan to do.I am so unhappy wif u n our relationship.I wan a better partner who can make my life more fulfilling.U'r doin a terrible job."It actually mean "I wan u to knw i love my life but today i'm so overwhelmed.I wud love to do someting nurturing for myself b4 i haf to be responsible again.Wud u ask me 'wats da matter?' n den listen wif empathy without offering any solutions?I jst wana feel u understanding d pressures i feel.It wud make me feel so much better.It helps me to relax.Tomolo i'll get bak to normal."
"no one listens to me anymore"-a man may hear "I give u my attention but u dun listen to me.U used to.U become a vry boring person to be wif.I wan someone exciting n interesting n u'r definitely not tat person.U haf disappointed me.U r selfish,uncaring n bad."It actually means "I am afraid i am boring to u.I am afraid u r no longer interested in me.I seem to be vry sensitive today.Wud u gif me some special attention?I wud love it.I've had a hard day n feel as tho no one wants to hear wat i haf to say.Wud u listen to me n continue askin supportive questions such as:'wat happened today?wat else happened?how did u feel?wat did u wan?how else do u feel?' Aso support me by saying caring,acknowledging n reassuring statements such as:'Tell me more' or 'Tats right' or 'i knw wat u mean' or 'i understand'.Or jst listen."
"i wan more romance"-a man may hear "U dun satisfy me anymore.I am nt turned on u.Ur romantic skills r definitely sucks.U haf nvr fulfilled me.I wish u were more like other me i haf been wif."Instead it means "Sweetheart,u've been working so hard lately.Lets take some time out for ourself.I love it when we can relax n be alone wif no pressures.U r so romantic.Wud u suprise me wif flowers sometime soon n take me out on a date?I love being romanced."
Men always misunderstood wat women meant tats y there's arguements becos men n women think n process information vry differently.
Quote:women often discovers wat she wants to say throught d process of jst talking.Tis process of letting tots flow freely n expressing them out loud helps her to tap into her intuition.Tis process is perfectly normal n especially neccessary sometimes.
So its ok tat sometimes we raise our voices.SO guys,when ur gf argue wif u next time n tell u somthing like tis abt wat i quoted jst nw,think again.We r not being 'ridiculous' n unreasonable but is u who misunderstood :).From my point of view,when we say something like 'u dun love me anymore',we actually feeling insecure inside of us,we wan to hear tat u say tat 3 'magic' words sincerely n not accusing u of something.
Appreciated
Sometimes things is not easy to be share.Tats y sometimes i kept everything to myself,u can only c me smiling all d time but actually i'm suffering inside.Dun force me to say it out cos i jst dunwan to,its really not easy at all,n u will jst make me even more worst.
So while i'm writing tis blog,my bro msg me in msn.At 1st he got ntg to chat wif me but he say he saw me on9,he still haf to at least say 'hi' even tho he got ntg to chat wif me.I nvr tot tat someone who will really respect me becos of i'm his/her godsis,he's d only one.While we got ntg to chat abt he came out wif a topic;
T :just now J quarrel wif her gf over a stupid small thing...i wonder y they still together
Me :hahahaha...quarrel is a way of understanding
T :including scolding bad words and raising voice like mad?
Me :hmmmm quarrel is like tat wan la...depends on their attitute toward each other
T :(telling me wat had happen*confidential sikit ya*;is something abt J took a pic wif a girl.So d girl post it on d net.J's gf saw it n asked J to ask d girl to del it)....isn't it ridiculous?
Me :must understand his gf aso ma...cos she too care abt him adi,too love him
T :she kept on calling him,he's playing game which money counts
Me :is like tat 1 la
T :is every girl like tat?includes u?
Me :when come to tis kinda things,girls tend to dun care wats goin on in tis world n only concentrates on tat topic they r quarreling abt
T :wah...girls r scary...
Me :becos we care too much
T :i thought got girls are understanding enuf tim
Me :but of cos i've learned adi la...wont be so unreasonable
*some conversation had been edited*
Well,i admit i was unreasonable b4.As i said i've learned n i'm still learning,I learn to calm myself down n haf a talk instead of raising voices.Guys shud understand y girls act tat way,becos we girls r more emotional than guys do,we r not violent n wat we can oni do is bugging u all d time wif d same issue until u haf solve it even tho it happened few days ago or even months or years ago.Once it happens,we tend to feel insecure,we calls we bugs eventho we knw where u r from d last few calls n we still calls.Appreciates d feelings ur gf haf for u,they care n love u tats y she act tat way.N nvr ever take them for granted!
Ok,so bak to my topic.For so long,wat i've done for my previous bf is nvr appreciated.I dun nit anything in return but at least a word of appreciation will do but none n still wana take me for granted.No matter how he hurt me,i still forgive him becos i love him so much,before.Tats y i left n look for someone who will appreciate in everything i do for him n our relationship.N now there is.I jst talked to him jst nw,i'm so touch cos he really do appreciates wat i've done for him.He treats me so good till sometimes i feel i dun gif enuff for our relationship.For d 1st time,i felt i'm so appreciated.N i appreciates it so much.
All a girl wants is appreciation n not those sweeter-than-honey words u said to us.We wana feel secure n sweeter-than-honey words,its works at 1st but after awhile,when d love grow deeper,sweeter-than-honey words will only makes us feel insecure becos u can say it to any otha girls but it can be use when u r trying to make her happy when she's upset.Guys too want to be appreciated rite?
So while i'm writing tis blog,my bro msg me in msn.At 1st he got ntg to chat wif me but he say he saw me on9,he still haf to at least say 'hi' even tho he got ntg to chat wif me.I nvr tot tat someone who will really respect me becos of i'm his/her godsis,he's d only one.While we got ntg to chat abt he came out wif a topic;
T :just now J quarrel wif her gf over a stupid small thing...i wonder y they still together
Me :hahahaha...quarrel is a way of understanding
T :including scolding bad words and raising voice like mad?
Me :hmmmm quarrel is like tat wan la...depends on their attitute toward each other
T :(telling me wat had happen*confidential sikit ya*;is something abt J took a pic wif a girl.So d girl post it on d net.J's gf saw it n asked J to ask d girl to del it)....isn't it ridiculous?
Me :must understand his gf aso ma...cos she too care abt him adi,too love him
T :she kept on calling him,he's playing game which money counts
Me :is like tat 1 la
T :is every girl like tat?includes u?
Me :when come to tis kinda things,girls tend to dun care wats goin on in tis world n only concentrates on tat topic they r quarreling abt
T :wah...girls r scary...
Me :becos we care too much
T :i thought got girls are understanding enuf tim
Me :but of cos i've learned adi la...wont be so unreasonable
*some conversation had been edited*
Well,i admit i was unreasonable b4.As i said i've learned n i'm still learning,I learn to calm myself down n haf a talk instead of raising voices.Guys shud understand y girls act tat way,becos we girls r more emotional than guys do,we r not violent n wat we can oni do is bugging u all d time wif d same issue until u haf solve it even tho it happened few days ago or even months or years ago.Once it happens,we tend to feel insecure,we calls we bugs eventho we knw where u r from d last few calls n we still calls.Appreciates d feelings ur gf haf for u,they care n love u tats y she act tat way.N nvr ever take them for granted!
Ok,so bak to my topic.For so long,wat i've done for my previous bf is nvr appreciated.I dun nit anything in return but at least a word of appreciation will do but none n still wana take me for granted.No matter how he hurt me,i still forgive him becos i love him so much,before.Tats y i left n look for someone who will appreciate in everything i do for him n our relationship.N now there is.I jst talked to him jst nw,i'm so touch cos he really do appreciates wat i've done for him.He treats me so good till sometimes i feel i dun gif enuff for our relationship.For d 1st time,i felt i'm so appreciated.N i appreciates it so much.
All a girl wants is appreciation n not those sweeter-than-honey words u said to us.We wana feel secure n sweeter-than-honey words,its works at 1st but after awhile,when d love grow deeper,sweeter-than-honey words will only makes us feel insecure becos u can say it to any otha girls but it can be use when u r trying to make her happy when she's upset.Guys too want to be appreciated rite?
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